The Healing Center

Everyone, I’m just depressed tonight & I’ll tell you why.  Here in Seattle there is a place called The Healing Center.  The Healing Center is a non profit organization which helps people who have lost someone.  Its for people grieving.  Here is the problem that I have with The Healing Center.

The groups or the counseling which is inexpensive is only for: Youth who have lost a parent or for an adult who have lost a spouse.  I think that this is great, however the problem that I have & have had with this place is that I don’t fit into either category.  That is just downright discrimination not by race but because I am single (not by choice either).  What I’m wondering is how come the youth, adults that have lost a spouse, why are these two groups more important than a single adult woman who has not only lost her Father, it was kept so secret that I didn’t even know for sometime until I did some investigating where the heck that Dad was buried.  Then I was notified of his death by VOICEMAIL!  My life took a dive into the toilet for years.

I’ve noticed what I’ve called discrimination against people who are single.  Its just not fair!  Why leave the singles out ?  Including when we encounter the death of a loved one.   Single folks are no less important than the youth or adults who have lost a spouse.  I’ve always believed that this town is real backwards.  I just don’t get it.  And I gave the director or whatever title that the man of the Healing Center my two cents.   To me I felt that their policy stinks!   But Seattle is like that. 

If you are a single parent (gay or straight), if you are coupled, if you are a youth then somehow you have worth.  But if your single without children than its like you just don’t matter & it seems implied that you have no worth.   That’s a damn shame.  I’m ashamed to be living here.  Not only does this town have young men who have the worst manners this side west of the Mississippi but single people are treated no better than a dog it seems.   I’m thoroughly disgusted!

I have rights too!  You’d never know that living here.  Anyone thinking of moving here don’t come alone.  The breeze is worse than the North Pole.

I’m tired of the disrespect here.

You know, I may not be drop dead gorgeous, a girly girl and to those that are I tip my hat off to you I don’t hate.  However my issue is what I’ve complained about for quite sometime and which I wrote a brief blog on.  And that is the disrespect some men ( of a certain ethnicity) show towards African American women.  I’ve been called ugly a lot.  It does bother me and I don’t like it.   You men why are you so disrespectful especially when we are not doing anything to you, and we don’t even know you from a can of paint!  Whats wrong with you?

I’m African American who lives in the Pacific Northwest.  I absolutely loathe living here but right now I don’t have much of a choice because of money, which I’m really working hard to find a way to leave here.  This is the worst place to live when your a woman of color.

Today, I’m going to Jack In The Box to get a meatless breakfast sandwich on my way to volunteer at Hero House.   So I’m walking in the parking lot to get to the door of the restaurant when I notice a Mercedes coming from the opposite direction where a parking space was nearby.  Now I’m not sure but what bothered me was this guy than does a huge circle around me and as he is doing this he is smiling at me as he is doing this.  It was sort of like he was doing a doughnut in the parking lot just to get to his space when it was clearly not necessary to do in the first place.

This young punk had his girlfriend in the car so perhaps he was showing off.  I have the feeling that this cretin was trying to scare me perhaps send me running.   However I didn’t change my stride one single bit.  I simply looked at him scowling.  Because he was clearly doing an exaggerated dick move.  Which I didn’t appreciate not one bit!  I wasn’t upset, I just didn’t appreciate it.  This boy was young, a punk.  This is why I hate it here the men show very little respect especially towards black women. 

Message to all of you youngsters, knock it off!  And quit trying to show off.   Also stop disrespecting us sisters.  You have a girlfriend well bully for you, just leave me the hell alone if I’m not bothering you.   Stop with the insulting remarks because no matter how we women are dressed this does not give you leeway to disrespect us.   Youngblood your looking to get hurt trying to pull stunts like the one I just described.  I sure wasn’t expecting this that’s for sure. 

I’ll not be going to J.I.B. any longer.  I’ll start going to Subway for my breakfast sandwich.  Guys just don’t know how to be proper gentlemen and when I say this I mean those young punks who feel entitled to act any kind of way they want.  One Chris Brown in the World is enough!  I dare you to pull that same stunt on a man.  Bigotry its whats for Breakfast, lunch & dinner.  Young men?  You can all go to hell.