The Healing Center

Everyone, I’m just depressed tonight & I’ll tell you why.  Here in Seattle there is a place called The Healing Center.  The Healing Center is a non profit organization which helps people who have lost someone.  Its for people grieving.  Here is the problem that I have with The Healing Center.

The groups or the counseling which is inexpensive is only for: Youth who have lost a parent or for an adult who have lost a spouse.  I think that this is great, however the problem that I have & have had with this place is that I don’t fit into either category.  That is just downright discrimination not by race but because I am single (not by choice either).  What I’m wondering is how come the youth, adults that have lost a spouse, why are these two groups more important than a single adult woman who has not only lost her Father, it was kept so secret that I didn’t even know for sometime until I did some investigating where the heck that Dad was buried.  Then I was notified of his death by VOICEMAIL!  My life took a dive into the toilet for years.

I’ve noticed what I’ve called discrimination against people who are single.  Its just not fair!  Why leave the singles out ?  Including when we encounter the death of a loved one.   Single folks are no less important than the youth or adults who have lost a spouse.  I’ve always believed that this town is real backwards.  I just don’t get it.  And I gave the director or whatever title that the man of the Healing Center my two cents.   To me I felt that their policy stinks!   But Seattle is like that. 

If you are a single parent (gay or straight), if you are coupled, if you are a youth then somehow you have worth.  But if your single without children than its like you just don’t matter & it seems implied that you have no worth.   That’s a damn shame.  I’m ashamed to be living here.  Not only does this town have young men who have the worst manners this side west of the Mississippi but single people are treated no better than a dog it seems.   I’m thoroughly disgusted!

I have rights too!  You’d never know that living here.  Anyone thinking of moving here don’t come alone.  The breeze is worse than the North Pole.


Published by: The Lonely Shepard

Me: I grew up in an extremely abusive & disadvantaged family environment were both parents were really immature & their relationship messy! I was abducted by my Father at age 8 abused physically, mentally, degraded by his 2nd Wife, and I didn't see my Mother again until 4 years later, I had to risk my neck + my life to run off to seek help with the local police & this was way before there was any such laws on the books for child abuse. Think on that awhile. Had learning disabilities all throughout school by the time I graduated I learned nothing, was prepared for nothing out in the World. Think on that. Joined the United States Army right out of High School only reason I did join was that at the time there was an Army recruiter right on the High School campus & he took an interest in me. So I joined. I was really in over my head. But what else could I do? I lived with a single Mom who was emotionally unstable & I had ZERO support from anyone including the school staff + administrators. The military was hard & degrading to me as a woman but I got out with an honorable discharge. More about me: A series of dead end jobs, my mind was totally a mess after I got out of the Army, still had no support not even from the Veterans admin. My journey has been a total nightmare of: trying to find out about myself, learning about myself, how to live as an adult, all with no help. Now after long , and intensive filled journey I'm trying to get back on track with my life I want to go to school with the hope of one day attending University. I don't wish my journey on anyone. No one gave me guidance: as a child as a teen as a young adult I was all on my own! and it was real lonely , isolating, extremely frightening. Family? don't really have any. Now remember everyone I'm African American & I receive little to no respect I don't even warrant a speeding car that will slow down. "The person who sang the National Anthem sang the last note so high that no could reach it! That was intentional!" Belize from Tony Kushners play Angels In America. If you've read this far I will leave my email in case you want to leave me a msg. Those that are rude will get deleted immediately. Contact:

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