This Goes Out To KW

Hi everyone,

I usually blog about whatever I’m going through in my life both past & present.  It’s a form of therapy until I can get in to see the psychiatrist which is in a couple of weeks.  These guys book up & quick.   It’s why I blog.

However, I’m a bit concerned about a fellow blogger that I used to follow.  

Today I had logged onto a public library pc to kill some time today since I was running errands & I didn’t want to go home.  Avoiding a neighbor that I’m not real comfortable with.  

When I logged into my email I noticed a blog that I had followed that was in my inbox.  I read the blog.   That particular blog really concerned me.   A lot.   I know that I probably have some folks who might not like what I write on here.  Or some folks who don’t like me.  Say what you will everyone, but I do have concern for my fellow woman.   Sometimes the men but mostly the women.

And this particular young woman has me concerned.

My concern?  Is this young ladies drinking & the amounts that she imbibes.

Now I’m the last to judge.  I feel that if you want to take a drink go right ahead.  If your drinking because you need it to go to public places be it the movies or anywhere else outside of a bar or your home then I feel everyone that is not such a good thing.

This young ladies account of her drinking really worried me.  I’ve been around the block some & I’m somewhat older & I see the road that she is headed down.  It doesn’t look good for her.  I hope that I’m wrong.  But I have good instincts, it’s the one thing I have that’s kept me alive & to some extent once I was old enough out of trouble. 

This blog is in no way a lecture, but her blog really had me thinking, I’ll say that much.

Here are some excerpts from what I remember from reading this young ladies blog today.

Her habits on drinking:

Our young lady likes to load up on champagne in one of those Big Gulp cups that one see’s at the 7-11.

She will often take this drink to the local Zoo.  Hmm I feel that this is a terrible idea as there are families with children at the Zoo.   I feel everyone that if you have a “vice”  keep it at home or around appropriate places around other adults like a party, the Club, or at a special occasion were alcohol is served.  Remember even when you don’t realize it, alcohol can be smelled on the breath & it’s a good way to get banned from an establishment where children are in frequent numbers.   I didn’t care to read that.   Although us adults aren’t perfect we must TRY to present a good example when we’re around the youngsters!

This girl is in trouble with her drinking.  This is not a few drinks during cocktail hour drinking its full blown alcoholic drunk drinking.   Again everyone I see it in the few blogs I’ve read from her.  This latest one really had me seeing possible RED FLAGS.   Anyone remember those old Lost In Space episodes & that  robot who said “Danger Will Robinson”  yup!  Danger indeed.

From what I read I see that her prime concentration is dating of which there is nothing wrong with that.  She’s young & that’s what young people do.  However, when further on in her blog the young lady in question had went on a date with someone she liked a lot so far so good I’m thinking, however she mentions that she loaded up on a drink called mimosa’s (I’m not familiar with it) hours prior to her big date. 

Oooh not a good idea!  To offset how much she drank she did eat something unfortunately she chose to eat her food with her date present, the date according to our story teller had already eaten, meaning our story teller was eating in front of her date, the date was not eating.

Don’t know about any of you out there reading but this is a big no no.  A person should never eat something when the other person isn’t eating.  Bad etiquette I don’t know what Miss Manners would say ( Yes Miss Manners is a published book on proper etiquette) but it was what my parents taught me ( Yeah, I learned a few positive things).   Our young storyteller & her date saw a movie then when the two went back over to the dates house…..oh boy!  I swear this is what she wrote, our young lady got sick then vomited at her DATES house!

Back in my drinking days everyone I remember about being that sick.  You usually are real noisy…cause upheaving your guts is not a quiet process.   And I thought that I had embarrassing experiences!

Once she finished our story teller says that she went towards her dates bedroom where apparently the date was asleep ( I really doubt that but that’s what our storyteller said)  If any of you want my two cents, I think that the date was PRETENDING to sleep as she probably didn’t know what else to do poor thing.   I guess the date just wasn’t real assertive.  If it was me I would have put the drunk gal in a cab & sent her along home.   I just couldn’t believe what I was reading. 

Our story teller then mentions something about finding a stable relationship.  I’m sorry to say this but I am a blunt person.  No nice stable minded person would have nothing to do with our young story teller.  Its as simple as that.   Her main occupation is finding a relationship & partying.   Her main priority?  is to love herself.   Have self respect & for God’s sake to quit drinking altogether!

I know what I’m talking about everyone I’m not preaching I was this young girl once upon a time.  And I drank so much I put myself in some precarious spots.   Our young lady if she keeps up this pace (I believe she mentioned she was around 25) she won’t make it to 30 or 40 if she is lucky.   Drinking my friends destroys you from the inside out!  And your at high risk for developing any kind of Cancer too. 

Pancreatic Cancer is one of many.   I felt so incredibly sad everyone once I finished reading her blog.  I chose to no longer follow her blog as well.   When I began to read her blogs I thought that “Well she is young & carefree”  But after her last two blogs & this latest one in particular I just had to unsubscribe from anymore reading.   I won’t mince words my friends & if you don’t agree then that’s your prerogative.  But this woman is on the road to drinking herself to death!  It may not happen today, tomorrow, next month, next year, or perhaps many years but its a matter of when & not if.

I have a Cousin one that I grew up with, name is Bob. 

Bob was such a HANDSOME man!  Whenever Bob came to visit me?  Women would literally stop me on the street asking if her were my boyfriend.   That was how much of a ladies man he was, he didn’t even have to try the women just FLOCKED to him as if out of nowhere.

Unfortunately my friends Bob also had a heavy duty drinking problem since he was 13.   Bob is still alive by the grace of God but he looks nowhere as good as he did back then.   I still look pretty good for my age aside from a few pounds.  But Bob lost all he front teeth his face has aged instead of 44 he looks 64.   He is starting to regain some muscle & he is lean but he is not the same Bob I once knew.   Its sad but at least he is sober & alive.   He got religion which I’m happy.  

I hope that this young woman quits while she can, but from what I read in the last paragraph of her blog it doesn’t seem like she wants to.  She wants to continue having fun.  I’m all for fun but you can have fun without all the drinking!  Remember when all of us were Children?  We had some ingenius ways to have fun.   I grew up without much parental supervision cause Step Mom wanted me out of her sight when I was a child so all day long me & my childhood buddies thought of numerous ways to play pretend & we didn’t have much money to do anything!  No summer camps for us like the rich kids.

The same things we learned when we were children could to some extent be applied as adults we just need not be so self destructive.

We need to face our demons, get better only then will we possibly attract someone healthy into our lives.

Because no person in his or her right mind wants a drunkard for a partner  & those that do are themselves pretty damn undesirable.

This goes out to KW.

Honey you need to slow down, find constructive ways to fill your recreational time.  learn to be a kid again, try to remember a time where booze wasn’t the way to deal with things.   Also until you put the bottle down don’t expect to meet an emotionally healthy happy person to come into your life.   The only ones who might come your way, believe me will just not have your best interest at heart.

KW  I’ll send a prayer your way.  You deserve better.  You want to have more in common with a potential mate other than booze & a good time.   It’s okay to have fun once in a while, however fun is meant as something to have not all the time.  Life is just not like that.  Please get yourself some help.   I strongly suggest it.  I’m a veteran.  I’ve been there, done that.   It will get old.   It will certainly age you & worse.

And most of all KW please stay safe.  I know that I don’t know you but I do know that I care.  Put yourself first, love yourself before considering meeting THE ONE.

You’ll lose everything if things don’t change.

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Published by: The Lonely Shepard

Me: I grew up in an extremely abusive & disadvantaged family environment were both parents were really immature & their relationship messy! I was abducted by my Father at age 8 abused physically, mentally, degraded by his 2nd Wife, and I didn't see my Mother again until 4 years later, I had to risk my neck + my life to run off to seek help with the local police & this was way before there was any such laws on the books for child abuse. Think on that awhile. Had learning disabilities all throughout school by the time I graduated I learned nothing, was prepared for nothing out in the World. Think on that. Joined the United States Army right out of High School only reason I did join was that at the time there was an Army recruiter right on the High School campus & he took an interest in me. So I joined. I was really in over my head. But what else could I do? I lived with a single Mom who was emotionally unstable & I had ZERO support from anyone including the school staff + administrators. The military was hard & degrading to me as a woman but I got out with an honorable discharge. More about me: A series of dead end jobs, my mind was totally a mess after I got out of the Army, still had no support not even from the Veterans admin. My journey has been a total nightmare of: trying to find out about myself, learning about myself, how to live as an adult, all with no help. Now after long , and intensive filled journey I'm trying to get back on track with my life I want to go to school with the hope of one day attending University. I don't wish my journey on anyone. No one gave me guidance: as a child as a teen as a young adult I was all on my own! and it was real lonely , isolating, extremely frightening. Family? don't really have any. Now remember everyone I'm African American & I receive little to no respect I don't even warrant a speeding car that will slow down. "The person who sang the National Anthem sang the last note so high that no could reach it! That was intentional!" Belize from Tony Kushners play Angels In America. If you've read this far I will leave my email in case you want to leave me a msg. Those that are rude will get deleted immediately. Contact: Yogibeara425@hushmail.com

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