So You Think That Women Shouldn’t Serve In The Military?

Well, wonders never cease do they? Just when I’ve heard enough insults & demeaning remarks.
Today I’m riding in the van when I strike up a conversation with the driver.
The driver mentions that he trains the company drivers of the Access van I ride in down in Las Vegas Nevada. Living here in dreary dull Washington Las Vegas sounds alot like Disneyland as far as I’m concerned.
The driver then mentions Colorado Springs in Colorado. Another City I’ve lived in when I was younger & enlisted in the U.S. Army.
I swear, I can’t seem to escape the damn jealousy or hate because then an older woman asks me if I was in the Army. To which I replied yes, I’m not ashamed.
Then this woman says how she feels that women don’t belong in the Army.
Really? Her remark I feel was made out of total ignorance.
Women have served 3 World wars not including Afghanistan & Iraq
How in the hell does a person make a statement like that? To me? It is definitely out of sheer stupidity!
Let me say that for me as a African American female who had:
No Father figure
Neglected by her Mother
No sense of self whatsoever
That joining the Army was basically my only option for a chance to grow up.
I WAS that disadvantaged child whom no one wanted to be bothered with, and mind you I was not a problem child, it was just no one gave a damn. Simple as that.
So when I first met that Army recruiter on the high campus all those many years ago, I jumped at the chance for a possible better life one that was far more attractive than being abused by my unstable Mother on a daily basis.
I have to say that I get real sensitive when someone says Women don’t belong in the military.
To some of you who’ve never served: Please keep these kinds of statements to yourselves….PLEASE!
A sharp stab with a butcher knife to my ribs would have been preferable.
The woman who was dropped off at her destination ahead of me says “Don’t take offense to what I said, I’m just old” I had wanted to reply to her “No offense taken” but the words just couldn’t make it out of my mouth.
Because in fact, what she said hurt me deeply.
And not just myself but all those other women who served & have served it feels just like being spit right in the face.
And this was what was going thru my head as she was exiting the commuter van.
Guess I’ll just have to forgive her.
Thanks for reading.


Published by: The Lonely Shepard

Me: I grew up in an extremely abusive & disadvantaged family environment were both parents were really immature & their relationship messy! I was abducted by my Father at age 8 abused physically, mentally, degraded by his 2nd Wife, and I didn't see my Mother again until 4 years later, I had to risk my neck + my life to run off to seek help with the local police & this was way before there was any such laws on the books for child abuse. Think on that awhile. Had learning disabilities all throughout school by the time I graduated I learned nothing, was prepared for nothing out in the World. Think on that. Joined the United States Army right out of High School only reason I did join was that at the time there was an Army recruiter right on the High School campus & he took an interest in me. So I joined. I was really in over my head. But what else could I do? I lived with a single Mom who was emotionally unstable & I had ZERO support from anyone including the school staff + administrators. The military was hard & degrading to me as a woman but I got out with an honorable discharge. More about me: A series of dead end jobs, my mind was totally a mess after I got out of the Army, still had no support not even from the Veterans admin. My journey has been a total nightmare of: trying to find out about myself, learning about myself, how to live as an adult, all with no help. Now after long , and intensive filled journey I'm trying to get back on track with my life I want to go to school with the hope of one day attending University. I don't wish my journey on anyone. No one gave me guidance: as a child as a teen as a young adult I was all on my own! and it was real lonely , isolating, extremely frightening. Family? don't really have any. Now remember everyone I'm African American & I receive little to no respect I don't even warrant a speeding car that will slow down. "The person who sang the National Anthem sang the last note so high that no could reach it! That was intentional!" Belize from Tony Kushners play Angels In America. If you've read this far I will leave my email in case you want to leave me a msg. Those that are rude will get deleted immediately. Contact:

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