Message to you stepparents out there!

Here’s a message to all of you stepparents & would be stepparents. Are you ready? Quit being so damn selfish! and accept the previous marriage children as your own. And not only that Men & Women, but LOVE them as if they’re your own. As a former child who grew up with 2 stepparents I’ve found you all to be a selfish as well as lacking insight when it comes to the man or woman that you are about to betroth.
First off let me explain something to you.
YOU! Stepparent weather you like it or not must PROVE that you are even worthy to be a part of your spouses & stepchildren’s life.
Did you hear me? And what that means is future stepparents is that you don’t get to bring YOUR previous emotional baggage INTO the damn marriage.
It also means that ANY insecurity that YOU might have needs to be checked at the therapist office or wherever you go to talk to someone for support.
Am I getting through to any of you out there.
That also means that IF you don’t approve of how your future spouses children are raised by his or her former spouse YOU future stepparent DO NOT get to shame the children by calling them such names as spoiled, brat, bitch, bastard (names I’ve been called by my Fathers former 2nd Wife A___) You just don’t get to do that. If you have such issues future stepparent you had better get them all RESOLVED OR get ONGOING counseling. Cause YOU don’t have the right to take out your venom on innocent children that had no nothing to do with the fucked up problems of you adults who can’t seem to get your act together. I hate the lot of you. All you think about is yourselves.


Published by: The Lonely Shepard

Me: I grew up in an extremely abusive & disadvantaged family environment were both parents were really immature & their relationship messy! I was abducted by my Father at age 8 abused physically, mentally, degraded by his 2nd Wife, and I didn't see my Mother again until 4 years later, I had to risk my neck + my life to run off to seek help with the local police & this was way before there was any such laws on the books for child abuse. Think on that awhile. Had learning disabilities all throughout school by the time I graduated I learned nothing, was prepared for nothing out in the World. Think on that. Joined the United States Army right out of High School only reason I did join was that at the time there was an Army recruiter right on the High School campus & he took an interest in me. So I joined. I was really in over my head. But what else could I do? I lived with a single Mom who was emotionally unstable & I had ZERO support from anyone including the school staff + administrators. The military was hard & degrading to me as a woman but I got out with an honorable discharge. More about me: A series of dead end jobs, my mind was totally a mess after I got out of the Army, still had no support not even from the Veterans admin. My journey has been a total nightmare of: trying to find out about myself, learning about myself, how to live as an adult, all with no help. Now after long , and intensive filled journey I'm trying to get back on track with my life I want to go to school with the hope of one day attending University. I don't wish my journey on anyone. No one gave me guidance: as a child as a teen as a young adult I was all on my own! and it was real lonely , isolating, extremely frightening. Family? don't really have any. Now remember everyone I'm African American & I receive little to no respect I don't even warrant a speeding car that will slow down. "The person who sang the National Anthem sang the last note so high that no could reach it! That was intentional!" Belize from Tony Kushners play Angels In America. If you've read this far I will leave my email in case you want to leave me a msg. Those that are rude will get deleted immediately. Contact:

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