Why Women Shouldn’t Marry

As an adult survivor of Parents of a very bitter & nasty divorce as well as complex severe childhood abandonment + abuse I write my own commentary on why it’s a bad idea for women to marry any man.    

Women don’t need a man.

Men are abusive & just want a Mother

Men want to play around & around leaving the woman to care for the children, the work, and everything else.

Men are lazy.

When kids enter into the picture, when the parents divorce it is often times the FATHER who likes to use the kids as bargaining chips as a way to get back at whatever perceived slight the Mother has done.  Guess what this does?  TRAUMATIZE’S both kids & the Mother.   How do I know?  I was that kid, and my Mother she is still alive but she did attempt suicide thanks to dear old Dad who didn’t want to act like a man and work things out that would benefit the kids.   However the kids seem to be the bottom of the priority list of the Father.

I’m sick & tired of all the women bashing when it’s the men who cause the damage I know from very personal experience.   My grades, my life, my identity everything suffered decades later because this kind of trauma doesn’t ever go away no matter how hard one might try.   I’ve been through the therapist mill until finally I found someone who will work through all my issues which could fill up two Navy aircraft carriers.

Women do work, however when there is pressure to have kids, then care for them you expect them to be what?  Wonder Woman ?   Kids require work!   Kids are very messy, kids run around & have energy.     Hello?

This whole misogyny what is up with that?   Stop treating women like we’re nothing but chattel.   We’re human beings.     

To be continued


Published by: The Lonely Shepard

Me: I grew up in an extremely abusive & disadvantaged family environment were both parents were really immature & their relationship messy! I was abducted by my Father at age 8 abused physically, mentally, degraded by his 2nd Wife, and I didn't see my Mother again until 4 years later, I had to risk my neck + my life to run off to seek help with the local police & this was way before there was any such laws on the books for child abuse. Think on that awhile. Had learning disabilities all throughout school by the time I graduated I learned nothing, was prepared for nothing out in the World. Think on that. Joined the United States Army right out of High School only reason I did join was that at the time there was an Army recruiter right on the High School campus & he took an interest in me. So I joined. I was really in over my head. But what else could I do? I lived with a single Mom who was emotionally unstable & I had ZERO support from anyone including the school staff + administrators. The military was hard & degrading to me as a woman but I got out with an honorable discharge. More about me: A series of dead end jobs, my mind was totally a mess after I got out of the Army, still had no support not even from the Veterans admin. My journey has been a total nightmare of: trying to find out about myself, learning about myself, how to live as an adult, all with no help. Now after long , and intensive filled journey I'm trying to get back on track with my life I want to go to school with the hope of one day attending University. I don't wish my journey on anyone. No one gave me guidance: as a child as a teen as a young adult I was all on my own! and it was real lonely , isolating, extremely frightening. Family? don't really have any. Now remember everyone I'm African American & I receive little to no respect I don't even warrant a speeding car that will slow down. "The person who sang the National Anthem sang the last note so high that no could reach it! That was intentional!" Belize from Tony Kushners play Angels In America. If you've read this far I will leave my email in case you want to leave me a msg. Those that are rude will get deleted immediately. Contact: Yogibeara425@hushmail.com

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