Words Of Wisdom On How You Approach A Crush. You know You Need to read.

We all need to be loved.

We all need a special person that we want to call our own.  With that nauseas statement said let me part onto my readers some free advice you probably would need to pay a therapist hundreds of dollars for.    When you are approached by someone who likes you?   You are in no way obligated to like them back.  In fact you don’t owe them anything.     I will share in my own experience from having lived in the transitional hell hole I spent the last four months living in.  

I’m in a real vulnerable & all around miserable place.   Then this man comes up to me to introduce himself.   Here is what I know my readers.   To you women listen:  When a man comes up to you and introduces himself it usually means that he likes you.    I already knew this.   And I was not interested.   And the timing was completely bad  I mean approaching me as I’m sitting down to lunch in a cafeteria on the grounds of a transitional homeless shelter?  that’s worse than being approached at a bar!

What bothers me is that some people need to be careful about their expectations it’s alright to introduce yourself to someone ( however a homeless shelter might not be a very smart idea) but never expect  that the person will feel the same way or even acknowledge you.    The problem I had with this particular guy was that he acted somewhat immature.   You introduce yourself & if the person isn’t interested….MOVE ON!   

I really didn’t appreciate on the day of my move out from the shelter being asked by the resident manager WHY I didn’t like the guy who approached me at the beginning of my stay at the transitional house.   I couldn’t believe the childishness behind this.    Boo hoo,  I mean what a baby that guy was.

I’m selective & proud of it.   I usually know when I feel something for someone & this guy just wasn’t the one that I even was interested in.   Rejection is a part of life especially when meeting someone, seeing someone you like, or approaching someone you like.    Now there are some people who attract TONS of people more than they know what to do with.   But they’re kind of few & far in between most of us struggle.   Women we need to be selective & have that self respect along with having good self esteem, something I’ve been working on for years.     And I hope one day I’ll meet the one but so far it looks like I’ll be waiting a little longer.   I will try to approach someone however I won’t get my hopes up.   I have someone I’m interested in.   Wish me luck wouldn’t it be great if I met someone?   And summer is a great time to meet a person that you like!

I Have My Own Place.

I’m out of that disgusting transitional house the one for veterans that are homeless.   Where the men are disgusting, looking for girlfriends , and never bath!

Where there was one loud mouth queen bee who got on my nerves, and were the cafeteria food was real disgusting.    I’m so glad to be out of that place.

I think that I may have wrote about how bad the housing is here in the Pacific Northwest of Washington.   So it’s not a stretch to say that I have a nice apartment one bedroom, I am out pretty far from Seattle.    And my rent still is 1,025.00 monthly.  I live in a brand new building but the area is filled with a mixture of homeless, and druggies their not hard to miss.    At least there are some trees to see.

Getting moved into here I had to depend on a senior resident employee which I didn’t like very much.   Part of the perks of living at this place that was way out on the Peninsula.   However the guy was a bit of a well I want to be nice he seemed like he wanted to put me through changes.    Here is what I mean for example:   The guy who drove me to my new place had asked me why I didn’t talk to a certain guy who I guess was REAL interested in me ( yuck).   I guess the guy who liked me was real “stymied” that was the word used by the senior resident guy driving me to my new apartment.    

Here is my feeling on it.   I choose who I want to be with, and who I don’t want to be with.   And just because a guy comes up to me to introduce himself?   It doesn’t mean that I am obligated to like a man back.   This is something that the majority of adults SHOULD KNOW!   especially the older you get.    And a homeless place?

This was my 2nd stint of homelessness.    Now in my new apartment I feel pretty good.   

I’m now on the road to getting my life together.   Being a woman in 2018 isn’t easy.   Being a single woman who wants only the best in life is even harder.

Teachers I Had Weren’t Worth Much!

I heard on the radio today that it’s National teachers appreciation day.   What a joke!   For me teachers when I was a child were indifferent about my learning, all they cared about were their paychecks.    I was ignored by them, they really didn’t care especially White teachers when it comes to kids of color & I’m not making this up people they think NOTHING of Black, brown kids.

The only teacher who deserves appreciation and I never was privileged enough to be his student was a man named Jaime Escalante.    Jaime Escalante taught High school math at Garfield High school located in East L.A.  a predominately Hispanic part of town.    He didn’t just teach high school math he taught these kids who struggled at the beginning in fractions & guided them all the way to advanced calculus to take the AP test that awards college credit.    He taught for several years too.     Jaime Escalante has his own postage stamp too.   Unsure if I even spelled his name correctly but if your not familiar with his name there is a movie based on his real life called “Stand And Deliver”   starring Edward James Olmos as Jaime Escalante.    Now Jaime Escalante was a RARITY among teachers!    He is the only one in my book that deserves any appreciation.   Wished I were privileged to have been one of his students.    I’ve had many teachers in Middle & high school and none of them measured up to Jaime Escalante.      

As an added note parents you really need to insure that your kids are getting what they need in school.   I didn’t.  Coming from an abusive Step Mother, then an Abusive Mother, then Teachers who wouldn’t or couldn’t reach out to me well it really ruined me for the REAL World.   I had depression problems, bi polar problems was withdrawn, had no social skills.    It seemed that I was doomed to fail.   I’m trying to rebuild but as you all know it’s so much harder to do when your older.    I’m in my own hell and its pretty awful.

RIP Mr Escalante!  Remember all you judgemental people out there, there is no such thing as a dumb kid ANY KID!  All kids are capable of learning & learning well!  Correction, Albert Einstein didn’t fail at math everyone, he did have a professor that had failed him in physics class at one time because Einstein would be prone to skip class (nice to know he was a typical teen ).   So my bad.  However the man couldn’t even tie his own shoes!   Funny how when I was in school being shamed called stupid, dumb, slow, that the very same teachers never knew this very important info.

Aggressive Panhandlers

It’s a problem I believe nationwide.   I encountered one on the streets of Downtown Seattle 2nd & James while waiting for an express bus to take me to an apartment I’m trying to apply for in the southend.    Housing market here is real bad!   Housing wait lists are years long.   SO please don’t come here.

Anyway,   as I’m rounding the corner I’m accosted by a man who has his hands out asking for money and while he does this he keeps stepping closer & closer to me like he knows me.      I hold my hand out palm outward telling him to stay back!

Guess what time of day this was at?  It wasn’t quite 10AM in the freakin morning.    Guess that they don’t call it a full time job for nothing huh?

This guy walked up , then down the same street several times asking various people for money.    All while I was waiting for my bus which unfortunately came every 1/2 hour.   One thing I noticed about the guy.   He had on what seemed to me brand new starched jeans, Timberland boots.   Wow!  really?

I deeply resented this to the fullest!   I don’t have a wardrobe I’m lucky if I get something new & that’s on my birthday.   I was fuming mad at this idiot.   I made it known that he shouldn’t be wearing new clothes & asking for change.

Guess he didn’t like that, which I don’t care.   He walked over towards me, I held up my hands yelling at my loudest GET BACK!   Then he gave me the finger.   We did a back & forth.   I wasn’t afraid & I said that you won’t be disrespecting me.    See I feel like this.   If you want to hold up a sign saying that you need money I’m fine with that ( but be creative draw something nice)  but what I have a problem with is when someone is aggressive with me, singling me out because i’m a woman.   THAT’S NOT OKAY.     And I’ve made this comment before on another social media website if you need money there is always the company Labor Ready.     Get it?   GOOD!   Have a nice day & please don’t ask me for any money cause I really don’t have it to give to you anyway.